Whats more important: your child or your social life?

A little rant of a post coming up – but would love to hear your views on it 🙂

A Friend commented the other week about how little she sees her son – infact she says she works more hours than she spends with him. Yet she has her parents look after him or babysitters to allowe her to go out here there and everywhere…..

I was flabbergasted at that! I work the same amount of hours as she does, yet I still spend a lot of time with Jack.

I worked out just how many hours a week I spend with him:

  • at least 12 hours on a sat and sun
  • during the week on average 5 hours a day

so looking at what almost 50 hours? Give or take…

Now to me that is alot considering that I work a 37.5 hour week. I wholehearted admit that Jack doenst go down to bed at 7pm due to fact that I would rather spend some time with him, I dont get home unitl 6pm so spending a hour with him before shunting him off to bed just feels wrong.

When I found out I was pregnant I had basically ruled out a social life until Jack is at least 16 years old. Ok not complelty but its not the most important thing anymore.

My child is my priority not getting drunk at the weekend and panning my son off to any Tom, Dick and Harry  who will babysit.

We are lucky if we get a date night once a month – but since my mum looks after Jack a lot for us during the week we feel it is too much to ask for her to look after him at the weekend to let us go out – but she does it once a month…

To me that is great – its something to look forward to.

I understand people work and like to have children in bed by 7pm but I cant for the life of me work out this friend sees her son less than 37 horus a week!

So my question to you is this:

How many hours do you spend with your children if you work full time?

And what is having a social live more important?

 

30-something living in Scotland with her fiance Lee and 3 year old son Jack. Baby number 2 is due Dec 2012.
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2 thoughts on “Whats more important: your child or your social life?

  1. Obviously my son is more important but to keep sane I love a night out with the girls and when I fell pregnant I thought that was it but last year especially I was out all the time. I still got to see Thomas a lot. I think a good, healthy work balance is important that includes plenty of time doing ‘you’ things (I go to exercise class twice a week too) and balancing that out with being a mam is better than one extreme. Jojox

  2. I’m lucky, in that I work part time, 20 hours a week, but in the evenings. I get to see Freyja all day every day, so every now and again, I do go out. Although, my job is the thing that helps me socialise most(since I work in a pub).

    I do think you’re right though. Freyja will always come first and although I think a social life is important, I wouldn’t put it above being a mum. If I was woeking full time in the days, I’d be exactly the same as you. x

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